Comments on: Stamp on your ’shoulds’

By: 101 Things « Kirsty Hall

101 Things « Kirsty Hall — Wed, 23 Apr 2008 14:52:43 +0000

[...] on my official goal list. Hmm, perhaps I haven’t completely integrated that whole ‘only having positive goals’ thing [...]

By: She shoots, she scores! « Kirsty Hall

She shoots, she scores! « Kirsty Hall — Wed, 23 Apr 2008 14:49:19 +0000

[...] I listened to my intuition and kept the idea of making my list entirely positive utmost in my mind: whenever I felt a little internal sigh or reservation about a goal, I struck it [...]

By: Amanda

Amanda — Sun, 13 Jan 2008 06:22:46 +0000

Hi Kirsty,
I agree with both cally and wendy’s comments above - your post about goals is very thought provoking and inspiring. And I’d love to see your mind map, but maybe this is too personal to share…also what I’m most interested in is a little more detail about your process. At the moment my head is in such a kerfuddle that I am not sure I can even pose myself the right questions. If you have the time and energy to flesh this out a bit, I bet there are lots of people who would benefit…but if not PLEASE don’t feel guilty!Okay!?!

By: Wendy Shortland

Wendy Shortland — Fri, 11 Jan 2008 23:08:52 +0000

But I want to see YOUR mind map!

By: cally

cally — Sat, 05 Jan 2008 19:50:36 +0000

Wow, sorry, didn’t realise how long that was! I was doing it in tiny bursts through the day. Happy New Year, and good on you for taking the time out before the next daily project, hard, but wise.

By: cally

cally — Sat, 05 Jan 2008 19:48:24 +0000

Blimey, I always enjoy reading your posts, which is why I don’t visit so often in recent months, I get so mentally involved in them that I knacker myself. But I do love them, and these last few that I’m looking over ALL ring true for me, everything you say. Damn your good.

Maybe that’s how I should deal with my inabilty to write well and express my thoughts clearly, I could just have my whjole blog scattered with links say, “yeh, what she said” linking to your posts. Since finding more of you women who write as beautifully and succinctly as you make art,

I find myself struggling constantly with my blog. I write huge reams of stuff some weeks and delete it all before posting because it’s such a garbled mess and the whole point of my blog was to have one place in my life that wasn’t messy.

I think I get something from at least trying to write it down, though, like having a conversation with someone, it moves your thoughts along in ways they may not go when they stay in your head. I frequently don’t know I think something until I hear myself say it. Or hear you say it, or hear Marjojo say it, or Lisa Solomon etc. etc.

That’s what I love, when you women say it the space remains clean, no mess, even when you may be talking about confusion, difficulties, or even cupboards of Doom (love that, i have a room of doom just now, though i call it the room of shame, Mr P has 2 of them).

I love the idea of your no guilt strategy, I do pretty major guilt and when I’m low on energy the guilt is so damned tiring. But I also suspect I’m like you in needing the guilt to get things done, so maybe I can try to conciously pick times for each. I had a thing that worked well a few years ago but I let it slide - money monday’s. I would set Monday aside to deal with all the crappy financial things, bills, tax, or general form filling which I hate. I was pretty strict with myself, no art and no ‘fun’ till the job is done. And I would treat it like a 9-5 job, if it’s not done I’m leaving it and not stressing till the next monday. Why did I give that up? I’ve no idea, I bet the sun came out!

But anyway, I like how you’ve set me back on the path of awareness about this stuff again, it’s important so I don’t waste my little energy in the wrong places. Ok, so now the right places, back to reading more of your back dated posts, wey hey.

By: Sister Diane

Sister Diane — Sat, 05 Jan 2008 19:26:11 +0000

YES!! You are so right about the way we all tend to make our goals more punitive than positive. And not surprisingly, it never works - when phrase a resolution in terms of our being lacking in some way, of course we’ll find ways to avoid dealing with it.

I love your concept of listing things you really, truly want, without any “shoulds.” I should try that.

. . . And I REALLY love the fact that you database all the books you read. A woman after my own heart!

Thanks so much for this thought-provoking post.

By: Tina Mammoser

Tina Mammoser — Sat, 05 Jan 2008 10:53:20 +0000

You have my sympathies. I just did mine (with a mind map too) yesterday and blogged about it. Did feel like I was just blogging about the same thing everyone else is blogging though. But I write about my process to try and spur on some other people with a direction to take. Mine’s not so much my goals as my whole 2008 business plan really.

Remember, scary is good! Scary means new. New means evolving.